By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=D_P_Haynes]D P Haynes
There are many couples who are struggling today with trying to build a healthy marriage. Believe it or not there is a difference between a happy marriage and a healthy marriage. You can have two individuals happy at the present time but because their relationship isn't healthy there is a risk for a marriage breakdown or failure in the future.
I'm sure you are thinking "how could a happy marriage not be a healthy marriage"? Well, why don't we explore the matter for a few minutes and you can make up your own mind if this is true. In fact, you might even be able to examine your marriage and decide if it is healthy or just happy.
The following is a short snapshot of the marriage between Anthony and Samantha which we can put under the microscope.
Anthony and Samantha have been married for 6 years and have two beautiful children and a nice home in the suburbs. Anthony is a high achiever and he works long hours and provides a comfortable living for his family. They enjoy all of the benefits of living the life of an upper middle class family and that includes having disposable income and like-minded friends. On the weekends Anthony needs to unwind by playing 18 holes of golf and Samantha does quite a bit of hanging out and shopping with the girls.
Now, on the surface this seems like the American dream and a happy marriage. However, there is just one problem. Anthony and Samantha are not a happily married couple. They are happy as individuals but have very little time for each other. They are building separate lives and when the marriage doldrums hit they will be ill-prepared to deal with them.
Does your marriage have any resemblance to Anthony and Samantha's? Are you in that awkward stage in your marriage where things make you happy and not spending quality time with your spouse?
Please keep in mind that the longer you go with not putting your relationship in the right order the more work you will have to do to restore it when it begins to fall apart. I hope that you realize how important it is to continue to work on building a healthy marriage.
Now, I don't want you to misunderstand what I'm suggesting. You can be happy and have a healthy marriage. You don't have to give up your friends, golf, career or shopping if that's what you like to do. However, your spouse and your marriage should be at the top of the priority list. That's when you know that you are working towards a happy and healthy marriage.
7 Signs Of A Healthy Marriage
1. You are able to talk about anything.
2. Trust is not a questionable trait in your relationship.
3. Differences are embraced and not a continuous form of contention.
4. Being around each other is a joy and not a burden.
5. Mistakes are truly forgiven and grievances are not held onto for weeks or months or years.
6. There is a mutual feeling that your marriage comes before everything else.
7. Spending time together is important and excuses are not acceptable.
The above are just some minimum areas that tend to indicate that a relationship is healthy. Your marriage might seem complicated and hard to keep moving in the right direction but often times it really isn't. Marriage isn't difficult but people are.
The good news is that no marriage is perfect and all marriages can use improvement. Please don't ever make the wrong assumption that your marriage is so broken that it can't be fixed or to perfect to need improvement. You would be surprised to know just how easily an unhealthy marriage could be made healthy and vice-versa.
If your marriage is not as healthy as you would like it to be now is the time to do something about it. Please don't wait until you have more time to work on your marriage. Make the time and your relationship will continue to grow stronger.
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